The Rev. Dr. Matt Tittle is minister of
Bay Area Unitarian Universalist Church in Houston.
October 11 is national Coming Out Day. As frightening as it is, I’ve decided at 48 years old to come out of the closet! I’m attracted to women. I fall in love with women. I’ve known this since I was about five. Over the years, I’ve dated lots of women. I have lived with two female partners, one for six years, and my current partner for twenty years. I never felt like I had a choice. I just like women. I never decided to like them. I just do.
The problem is that throughout my life people have expected me to like men, or at least thought I did. After all, I was an actor, somewhat effiminate, and wore flashy clothes. Men tried to date me, but I always turned them away. I like women. I’ve always liked women and it’s about time I came out of the closet!
But I’m worried that I will disappoint my family and friends who always thought I liked men. Just a few weeks ago, a childhood friend said “I thought you liked guys!” What does she think now that she knows I like women?
Did I mention that I am a man? I am. I am that I am.
What difference does it make who I fall in love with? Love is a gift from God. I am grateful that no loving God would give anyone a gift in order to punish or humiliate them. I am simply standing on the side of love. It doesn’t matter if I’m standing with a man and a woman as I officiate their wedding. It doesn’t matter if I am standing with two men as they try to get the same benefits as their married friends. It doesn’t matter if I am standing with two women as they embrace their first child. It doesn’t matter whether I am gay or straight.
As we prepare to celebrate national Coming Out Day, I am standing on the side of love with all loving couples. I am calling on all allies of gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people to “come out!” Speak up! Speak out!
It has always been fine with me that people think I am gay. I believe that homophobia, not homosexuality, is a sin.
Come out, come out, wherever you are…
Reposted with permission from the Houston Chronicle. See Rev. Matt’s blog here.