Post by Delfin Bautista, UUA LGBT Ministries Program Coordinator
My best and dearest friend, Jessica, fell in love with her soul-mate, lover, confidant, and friend…the person she wanted to grow old with, face life’s uncertainties with, start a family with, and share her zeal for life, love, and laughter with. They courted, dated, and were married after two years together in a intimate ceremony. Unfortunately, Jessica’s relationship with her kindred spirit, Fiona, does not have legal standing in the eyes of the federal government because of the so-called Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), which defines marriage as only between one man and one woman.
By denying basic federal rights and protections to same-sex couples, DOMA causes untold problems for them. But for bi-national couples like Jessica and Fiona, the difficulties are much worse. Jessica is a U.S. citizen and Fiona is a Canadian citizen. Because of DOMA, Jessica, cannot sponsor her own wife for residency status here in the United States. On the other hand, Canadian law allows Fiona to sponsor Jessica for Canadian residency status. Jessica made the hard decision to leave her home, family, community, and country in order to be with the woman she loves. Fiona and Jessica thankfully had the support to make this huge and challenging transition—many couples are not able to pack up their life and move to another country.
Many bi-national, same-gender loving couples have stories like Jessica and Fiona.
In March, immigration officials offered many of these couples hope when they said they were delaying decisions on some immigration cases involving gay and lesbian couples as the Obama Administration had just announced it would no longer defend the indefensible Defense of Marriage Act. But days later, immigration officials dashed those hopes, clarifying they have not made any policy changes that would provide an opening to bi-national gay and lesbian couples.
There is a glimmer of hope. The Uniting American Families Act (UAFA) would ensure that the law protects relationships rather than assuming the role of home-wrecker. This piece of legislation would grant same-sex, bi-national couples the opportunity to pursue residency status here in the US.
In a few weeks, members of Congress will seek to undo some of the damage caused by DOMA by reintroducing the UAFA and pushing for its enactment.
This is an uphill battle in the current Congress, but as people of faith and people of good will, we are called to practice justice by lifting up the needs of all people as equal and worthy of engagement. UAFA resonates with this commitment by recognizing that all couples deserve to be respected and treated equally under the law—not relegated to the margins of second class by “special” clauses, statuses, or categories.
Under UAFA, Jessica and Fiona would have the option to stay here in the United States and the freedom to choose where to start a family—a freedom that is automatically given to heterosexual couples. Will you join me and others in making sure that this legislation passes so that all couples, queer and straight, are treated equally and justly under the law?
Contact your legislators—ask them to cosponsor the Uniting American Families Act. Let us together make sure that all relationships are treated with the worth, dignity, and respect they deserve.
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The following note came to us from First Unitarian Church of Portland, along with a donation to the Standing on the Side of Love Campaign. Our program is made possible because of gifts like this, so thank you to everyone in Portland for your generosity!
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To our good friends at Standing on the Side of Love,
Greetings! The membership of First Unitarian Church has a long standing commitment to marriage equity, immigration reform and economic justice. Thus, it is with great pleasure that we give you this donation of $3,710.79 for the good work you do. Thank you for your leadership on these critically important issues.
This donation comes from the cash collected during services in the month of February. Please accept it with our best wishes for continued success.
Rev. Kate Lore
On Sunday, a delegation of UU Allies for Racial Equity (ARE), a Unitarian Universalist white allies group, with several of us wearing our Standing on the Side of Love T-shirts and pins, went to Immokalee, Florida to meet with the Coalition for Immokalee Workers (CIW). CIW is a community-based organization across Florida of mainly immigrants from Latin America and the Caribbean. They have been leading a Fair Food Campaign and are working to increase pay and working conditions for farmworkers by getting major buyers of tomatoes to commit to paying just a penny more per pound, which substantially improves working and living conditions for workers. What may seem like a small increase in pay would enable them to buy a bike to commute and to get better housing.
Through collective organizing and targeting the biggest buyers, CIW succeeded in getting fast food giants, including Taco Bell and Burger King, as well as food service providers, including Aramark and Sodexo to agree to buy tomatoes only from growers that agree to the provisions in the Fair Food Campaign. Building on these successes, they are now focusing on getting supermarkets, who buy 90% of fresh tomatoes in the US, to agree to pay a penny more per pound.
On Friday night, Interfaith Action of Southwest Florida addressed the participants of the Allies for Racial Equity conference. As an interfaith coalition of people of faith and religious institutions that work closely in partnership with CIW to end sub-poverty wages and abuses in the fields, two of their staffers, Brigitte Gynther and Margaret Gleeson, talked to us about what it means to them to be a good ally. They were introduced by Rev. Allison Farnum, minister of the Unitarian Universalist Church of Ft. Meyers, Florida, who both serves on Interfaith Action’s board and hosted the ARE conference. Their faith has called them to work for justice in the fields, and to truly support farmworkers, they follow CIW’s lead. From sharing office space and aiding with technical support to translating Spanish when a CIW member gives a presentation to a congregation to involving the faith community in CIW’s campaigns, these two organizations work side-by-side.
The UU Allies for Racial Equity conference this year focused on “Commitment in Action,” offering UUs who identify as white an opportunity to examine what it means to be an anti-racist ally in our congregations and communities. It was inspiring for me to know that my faith community is actively involving our congregations to support immigrant farmworkers. In fact, the very first resolution the UUA General Assembly ever passed was in 1961 in support of migrant farmworkers. In 2008, the UUA General Assembly passed a resolution in support of the CIW Fair Food Campaign after hearing from the CIW farmworkers in plenary. The UUA Witness Ministries staff are partners of CIW and support them by both connecting congregations with their campaign as well as financially. Partnering with CIW is a powerful way to stand on the side of love and really bring about change.
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Bruce Knotts is a former Foreign Service Officer and the current Executive Director of the Unitarian Universalist United Nations Office
The message below went out to Standing on the Side of Love supporters on Thursday, March 31, 2011. You can sign-up for these emails here.
Equal Benefits for Equal Work. That was the motto of GLIFAA (Gays and Lesbians in Foreign Affairs Agencies) when I served on their Board of Directors. For 25 years, I served my country as a Foreign Service Officer at the Department of State in American embassies and consulates general in places like Athens, Lusaka, Calcutta, Lahore, Karachi, Khartoum, Nairobi, Abidjan and Banjul.
I’m married to Isaac Humphrie. We were married in Canada and our marriage is recognized by the State of New York. However, our marriage is not recognized by the Federal Government because of the so-called “Defense of Marriage Act” (DOMA).
What does that mean to us? My heterosexual colleagues enjoy benefits for themselves, their spouses and children. These health and pension benefits are worth thousands of dollars every year. Despite having done as much or more work than my colleagues and faced as much or more danger in the line of duty, my spouse has no access to my benefits. That means that Isaac has no health benefits and no access to my pension benefits.
It’s time to end institutionalized discrimination based on sexual orientation in this country. Tell Congress it is time to repeal the “Defense of Marriage Act” and restore the rights of lawfully married same-sex couples to receive the protections of marriage under federal law.
In Nairobi, I survived the terrorist bombing of our embassy in 1998 and earned two awards for heroism, superior honor and meritorious honor, which are among the highest awards that can be given to an American diplomat. While in Abidjan, I learned that there were reports that the Liberian President had sent an assassin with orders to assassinate me. It seems that Charles Taylor believed that I was sending Liberian refugees to the United States (I sent over 7,000 to safety in the United States). Charles Taylor, believed that these Liberian refugees (mostly women and children) would be trained to kill him, so he wanted me dead. I served my country with distinction and honor. In 2007, I retired from the Department of State and took my current position at the Executive Director of the Unitarian Universalist United Nations Office in New York City.
While the families of my colleagues enjoy benefits worth thousands, my 25 years of work facing life-threatening danger earns me not a penny in benefits for my family. To add insult to injury, in the State Department, pets (dogs and cats) receive travel benefits up to $1,000 per trip, while same-sex partners receive nothing. We are treated with less value than a dog. It is past time that those who have served this country with courage, and all Americans, receive equal benefits for equal work.
Can you join me to stand on the side of love and help our country move towards a place of inclusion for all families, and respect for all love?
Unitarian Universalist United Nations Office
Statement by the UUA for Senate Judiciary Committee Hearing on Protecting the Civil Rights of American Muslims
On Tuesday, the Senate Committee on the Judiciary, Subcommittee on the Constitution, Civil Rights and Human Rights has scheduled a hearing entitled “Protecting the Civil Rights of American Muslims.” The hearing, called by subcommittee chairman Sen. Dick Durbin (D-Ill.), featured a series of witnesses addressing the topic.
The following statement by the Unitarian Universalist Association of Congregations was entered for submission into the Congressional Record:
March 28th, 2011
The Unitarian Universalist Association (UUA) rejects attempts by some members of Congress to target American Muslims for particular scrutiny based on no other reason than their religious affiliation. The UUA is part of “Shoulder to Shoulder,” an interfaith coalition that stands in solidarity with Muslim Americans whom we recognize to be an integral part of our nation’s history and cultural landscape. As part of the Shoulder to Shoulder coalition, we condemned the hearing convened by Chair of the House Subcommittee on Immigration and Enforcement Rep. Peter King earlier this month. We commend Sen. Richard Durbin and allies for convening a Senate Subcommittee hearing to ensure that the rights and liberties of Muslim Americans are protected.
One of the founding principles upon which the United States was built is freedom of conscience or religious liberty for every person. From our First Amendment guarantee of freedom of religion to the writings of Thomas Jefferson who explicitly stated that “the mantle of [our law’s] protection” be extended to “the Jew and the Gentile, the Christian and the Mohammedan, the Hindoo and Infidel of every denomination,” our shared national legacy upholds this right. Unitarian Universalism shares this founding principle. Our Unitarian predecessors, including the nation’s second and sixth presidents John and John Quincy Adams, worked tirelessly to ensure that our society treats all equally, whether based on race or religion. The fourth of our association’s “Seven Principles” affirms that everyone has the right to “free and responsible search for truth and meaning.” In short, just like our nation the faith tradition of Unitarian Universalism is deeply rooted in affirming the right to profess the faith that our consciences call us to profess without fear of political reprisal.
As Dr. Martin Luther King Jr prophetically said, “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.” An attack on Muslim Americans is an attack on us all; it is an attack on what it means to be American. We thank you for convening this hearing and trust that you will continue to uphold the rights of all Americans regardless of ethnicity or religious affiliation.