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“Our work as a Welcoming Congregation doesn’t stop at our doors.”

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Members of Emerson Unitarian Universalist Chapel in Ellisville, Missouri, recently had an opportunity to live our mission as a “Welcoming Congregation” in the wider community by standing on the side of love during a local nondiscrimination vote. Emerson is a small congregation of about 120 members and one of two UU congregations in St. Louis County. Emerson’s members voted unanimously in May 2011 to apply for Welcoming Congregation status, and the application had been completed and approved by the beginning of last year.

Rev. Krista Taves of Emerson UU Chapel is interviewed after the vote. (Credit: Philip Deitch)

On Tuesday evening, November 27, 2012, the St. Louis County Council planned to vote on Bill 279, which would remedy the exclusion of sexual orientation and gender identity from nondiscrimination protections in employment, housing, and public accommodations. No changes were to be made by the bill other than adding those two groups to those already protected from discrimination. The changes would affect the unincorporated sections of the county, which are home to approximately one-third of the county’s population. The rest of the county’s almost one million residents live in the 90 municipalities in the county, a growing number of which (in addition to the independent City of St. Louis) have already added these protections for LGBTQ citizens. It was clear that the vote would be close. It was also clear that some very vocal opposition planned to come to the Council chambers to speak against Bill 279.

PROMO, Missouri’s LGBTQ advocacy organization, contacted Emerson through our Welcoming Congregation committee–the Diversity Alliance–and asked for help. The LGBTQ community needed people to speak in support of the bill and thank the Council for its work to promote justice and equality for all country residents. Emerson Chapel has a long and cooperative history with PROMO, and we were grateful for this chance to witness to our values. In all, eight members and friends of Emerson Chapel attended the meeting.

The bill obviously excited people’s passions, as 92 people registered to speak in the packed Council chambers. The Council was only obligated to listen to half an hour of testimony, but showed great commitment to letting every voice be heard. Speakers were limited to one minute each. Some did waive their right to speak in the interests of time, but most did not. In the end, the council heard almost two hours of testimony.

Most of those who spoke were vehemently opposed to the bill, many citing religious reasons, and some using language that one Council member described as “intolerance” and “bigotry.” Words like “perverts,” “deviants,” and “bestiality” were thrown around by the bill’s opponents. Scripture was quoted, and more than one person threatened the Council with hellfire and damnation. Many of the bill’s opponents were from Concerned Women for America, a group with the goal of bringing Biblical principles into all levels of public policy. Some other very conservative groups were disproportionately represented as well, including many from the NRA who had latched onto some language in the bill about guns (though that section had already been on the books for approximately 20 years).

PROMO’s Andrew Shaughnessy and Bill 279 sponsor Pat Dolan give a victorious thumbs-up. (Credit: Philip Deitch)

Thankfully, a much smaller, but equally passionate group spoke in support of the bill, including (but not limited to) two people associated with the Ethical Society, a couple of people from local Jewish organizations, and at least two who identified themselves as Christians, as well as three people from the Emerson contingent, including our minister Rev. Krista Taves, one of our young adults, and the current coordinator of our Diversity Alliance. Emerson also worked with Missourians for Equality to live-stream the entire meeting, and many other Emersonians watched along, or followed our Facebook updates posted from the Council chambers as we listened to the angry, frightened, hateful language with our hearts racing.

It was an extremely toxic and difficult two hours, but it was all worth it when the Council decided by a vote of 4 to 3 to pass the bill. This was a big victory for LGBTQ equality in our region, and we will continue to work with PROMO as more of the remaining municipalities in the county consider these same protections for LGBTQ residents. We were honored to participate in this historic event. Our work as a Welcoming Congregation doesn’t stop at our doors.


This post was written by Emerson UU Chapel member Lauren Lyerla, who testified at the County Council hearing. Find out more about the Unitarian Universalist Association’s “Welcoming Congregation” program here. Is your congregation already certified? Learn how to deepen your welcome here.

An Unprecedented Outpouring of Love for the Sikh Community

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The Standing on the Side of Love campaign is amazed by your overwhelming response to our request for messages of love and compassion for the Sikh community. More than 1,800 of you have submitted messages. This level of engagement is unprecedented for Standing on the Side of Love. In fact, more people have taken action to send love to Oak Creek than on nearly any other campaign in our history.

In the coming days, volunteers will handwrite all of your beautiful messages onto orange Standing on the Side of Love cards and string them together in a “love” chain. A coalition of local Unitarian Universalists will then hand-deliver the “love” chain to the Sikh Temple of Wisconsin. Rev. Chris Buice of the Tennessee Valley UU Church told us that the visual expressions of love that they received after the 2008 shooting are still displayed in their congregation. We hope that this will provide a similarly powerful visual message of love and solidarity to the Sikh community in Oak Creek.

Many of you are also attending local candlelight vigils to honor the victims of the shooting and show solidarity for the Sikh community. At one vigil in San Diego, Julie Schauble was interviewed by the local news while wearing her Standing on the Side of Love t-shirt and offered this beautiful statement:

“He didn’t even see the people he was shooting. He just saw an object for his hatred and fear and anger. And I wanted to say to the Sikh community that… we see you. We see who you are and we recognize you as our brothers and sisters.”

Watch the full coverage of the event here:

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Click here to find out if a vigil is planned in your area.

In this midst of this gorgeous outpouring of compassion and love for the Sikh community, we must not forget our Muslim neighbors in Joplin, Missouri, whose mosque burned down last weekend in a suspected arson attack. It’s essential that we continue to remain vigilant in speaking out against religious bigotry and intolerance in our communities.

This week, our partner Shoulder to Shoulder is also encouraging people to join their local Sikh community for worship and the traditional langar community meal as many temples will be dedicating their Sunday services to responding to this tragedy.

Click here to find out if there is a Sikh Gurdwara (temple) near you.

Thank you for helping us to create an outpouring of love for the Sikh community. Your heartfelt words inspire us to continue striving for a just, love-filled, beloved community.

In faith,

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Meredith Lukow
Program Assistant
Standing on the Side of Love


The message above went out on Friday, August 10, 2012 to Standing on the Side of Love supporters. You can sign-up for these emails here.

Conversations with LGBT Movement Leaders – Equality Federation Co-Chair A.J. Bockelman

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A.J. Bockelman, Executive Director of PROMO in Missouri and Co-Chair of the Equality Federation of Statewide LGBT Civil Rights Organizations

A.J. Bockelman, Executive Director of PROMO in Missouri and Co-Chair of the Equality Federation of Statewide LGBT Civil Rights Organizations

Today, LGBT civil rights leaders from across the country wind down their five day summer meeting in Madison, Wisconsin. The Equality Federation, a national alliance of state-based lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender advocacy organizations, gathers movement leaders every August as an opportunity to network, teach, learn, and share. This year’s meeting will close out with a breakfast hosted by Fair Wisconsin, with special guest Congresswoman Tammy Baldwin.

Campaign Manager Dan Furmansky, who serves on the board of directors for the Equality Federation, will continue to share with you over the coming days insights from leaders who are the backbone of the LGBT civil rights movement.


Following is our Q&A with LGBT civil rights leader A.J. Bockelman, Exective Director of PROMO, Missouri’s statewide LGBT advocacy organization.

A.J. Bockelman joined PROMO as Executive Director in July 2007. A.J. holds a B.A. in Business Administration from the University of Evansville. After spending 15 years in Human Resources within the travel industry, A.J. changed career paths to devote his energies to non-profits, including working as the Development Director for a local after-school and mentoring program. Prior to becoming a staff member at PROMO, A.J. was a long time volunteer and community activist. A.J. started as a community volunteer for Challenge Metro, a gay and lesbian crisis line in 1994. A.J. joined the PROMO Board of Directors in 2006 and previously served on the Human Rights Campaign, Board of Governors for five years. As the Executive Director or PROMO, A.J. has focused on building community partners, strengthening the infrastructure of PROMO and creating systemic change in our state legislature.



Q: Unless you are in the role, it’s impossible to understand what it’s like to be a spokesperson on issues related to identity-based politics, such as you experience advocating publicly as a gay man for LGBT equality. How would you describe the personal nature of your work to those who aren’t “professionally” LGBT for a living?

I find it a bit ironic only because when I came out as a teenager, I had said to my parents, ‘being gay is a part of who I am, but it does not define me as a person’. I believe that for me it has always been a calling. A part of my personal history includes my family’s wish for me to become the family priest. During my the summers in high school, I spent a few weeks at the seminary every summer. I must admit that it was an attractive opportunity for me – a call to a mission within a broader social justice construct. Yes, I’m talking about the post-Vatican 2 Catholic Church.

On an extremely personal level, I chose to downplay that desire to seek a social justice role in society by throwing myself into a business degree and working for nearly 15 years in the HR side of the travel industry. However I never fully reconnected with the other side of my personality until I acknowledged my desire and need to be involved at a community level. Working to advance LGBT equality isn’t just a job; for me, it is a mission. So while there is a professional capacity to it, I’ve never felt that it is a professional position.

Q: What personally keeps you moving forward day after day in your commitment to growing your strong state-based movement at home in Missouri and across the country?

I must admit that the day to day can be a challenge. There are days – usually Thursdays, oddly enough – that we get calls from community members across the state that have experienced discrimination in some way. In a handful of those cases, we can give some sort of a referral to hopefully alleviate the situation. However for the vast number of those calls, we have to deliver the difficult news that you can in fact be fired from a job because you are gay; kicked out of an apartment because you are a lesbian; and all to often completely denied access to services because you don’t conform to gender norms.

What keeps me going is looking at the broader movement towards equality and the key role that a state like Missouri can play in the broader dialogue. Whether we like it or not, the growth we are seeing in pro-LGBT legislation and positive changes in public opinion are coming about because of the incremental changes we are making at the state and local level. Just a recent example from Missouri comes from back in April when University City, a progressive suburb of Saint Louis, passed a domestic partner registry. It was a simple no brainer vote for the community – literally taking less than 10 hours of planning with and advocacy combined. The amazing thing that happened as a result of this ordinance is that we have no less than 7 different municipalities in the region – not nearly as progressive – now actively interested in passing nondiscrimination or a domestic partnership registry.

In short, the day to day can be a challenge between managing budgets, conflicting personalities and organizational capacity, but I’m continuously renewed and enriched by seeing these gains build up over time and the systemic changes that it inherently brings with it.

The Equality Federation Board of Directors

The Equality Federation Board of Directors


Q: While some states have the luxury of focusing on marriage equality, Missouri is still one of the states that does not ban discrimination against LGBT people. Your organization has been advocating for the Missouri Non-Discrimination Act for some time, to prohibit discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity in housing, employment, and access to public services. Polling generally indicates that the public supports anti-discrimination laws. Is that the case in Missouri as well? What are the bill’s likely chances of passage in the next year, and what are the main stumbling blocks?

I would love to be able to say we would see the Missouri Nondiscrimination Act (MONA) pass next year, however we don’t sugar-coat our goals. Realistically we’re looking at a minimum of 2-3 more years more work before we see it realized as law. We’re actively working on local ordinances that shore up the major metropolitan areas within the state. Within the next year, that will account for nearly 1/3 of the population of Missouri. At the same time, we’re building relationships in the second tier cities with populations typically under 50,000. We know LGBT folks and allies live there, but we’ve never been able to actively engage those personalities to show up at lobby day or pick up the phone to call their state rep or senator.

We have been advocating for MONA for over 11 years now, but we’re not discouraged by that long history. In fact the opposite is quite true. After being introduced for a full decade, we finally got our first hearing on the bill in 2010 and earlier this year managed to bring it to the House floor for a vote. We lost that vote, but it has proven as a valuable test which identifies new potential allies amongst moderate Republicans; confirmed support amongst nearly all of the Democrats; and confirmed for us that the core outline of our plan to gain full nondiscrimination in the state is working. One other key indicator, in comparing ourselves to other states that have been successful over time, is that we managed to get our moderate Governor to issue an Executive Order banning discrimination in state employment. While the move is largely symbolic, it has been an integral part of the path to equality in other states.

Q: Tell us about the role of the faith community in Missouri in promoting equality for LGBT people.

We are fortunate to have formed a partnership with Faith Aloud (www.FaithAloud.org). Several years ago in our efforts to identify friendly churches and faith leaders, we realized that as an organization, we don’t speak faith. We tend to speak politics, outreach and education. Our partnership with Faith Aloud has allowed us to collaborate with an amazing faith leader by the name of Reverend Rebecca Turner around both LGBT and reproductive rights. She has been able to identify friendly clergy in nearly every county around the state ranging from UU to Catholics and Jewish leaders. When we are looking to engage that community around an issue – as we recently did for a court case challenging survivor benefits for a surviving partner of a trooper killed in the line of duty – we collaborated with the faith community to build a network of town halls and clergy breakfasts talking about the role of faith communities in becoming LGBT friendly and communicating the need for broader relationship recognition opportunities for same sex couples.